So You Want Your Valentine’s Day Gift to be Unique

Do you dread the coming of Valentine’s Day, because you’re always trying to find something different, but end up falling back on the usual chocolates and flowers? You’re probably well aware that this kind of Valentine’s gift won’t get you many brownie points, but what else can you do when you’ve found yourself at a gift shopping dead end. Handing over such a last minute option will only make her think you don’t care enough about her, and will hide the truth that you spent months trying to find unique Valentine’s gifts for her. So let’s see if we can do something to help, and make the next Valentine’s Day one she’ll remember for many years to come.

Don’t Dawdle in Your Decision Making

The first and most important tip we can share with all you Valentine’s gifts seekers out there is not to leave things till the last minute. The more thought you put into choosing a perfect Valentine gift for her, the more likely you are to achieve success. Give yourself a week or two, or maybe even a couple of months, and we’re pretty sure that you’ll come up trumps. Some of you might be talented enough to pull off a romantic surprise with little or no preparation, but this scenario probably doesn’t apply to the vast majority of husbands, boyfriends and partners. So give yourself enough time to consider all your options and choose wisely.

Unique Valentine’s Day Gifts For Her

Decide on the Love Language Your Special Person Speaks

You already know that she speaks another language, after all women are from Venus and men are from Mars, right? But did you realise that there are certain dialects in her Venusian langage, important to understand when it comes to matters of the heart. The author Gary Chapman goes into great detail in his book “The Five Love Languages”, but let’s give you a brief introduction. The 5 languages are words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, quality time and gifts. In order to ascertain which is most important for the woman in your life, think about what you might have done in the past to make her happy, and what she might of complained about never receiving. Once you’ve got yourself the answers you’re on the right road to understanding the love language she speaks. And then all you need to do is get the right associated gift. Here’s a few examples:

• words of affirmation – write a love message or note
• acts of service – wash her car or cook her a meal
• physical touch – lots of hugs, kisses and holding hands
• quality time – an easy one to incorporate into your plans, give her your undivided attention
• gift – well this one needs no explanation

Go for Originality and Creativity

Forget the roses and chocolates, these are definitely not original, in any way shape or form. Do something, make something or give her a gift that she’s never had before, and the moment will be forever etched in her memory. Don’t be too obvious about it, but try and get some idea of what they’d prefer. You might get some good ideas by doing some research on the internet, looking at event calendars, online coupon companies and online gift sites like this one. Has the lady in your life got a hobby, or has she expressed a desire to try something new like parachuting, flying or learning how to drive a car very fast? There’s a few ideas to be going on with.

Give Your Relationship a Chemical Boost

When you first met your sweetheart, certain chemicals would have been released that heightened the experience. Unfortunately as your relationship matures in years so your body chemistry takes a bit of a shift. The initial rush of a first love is not meant to be sustained indefinitely, but rekindling those first feelings is possible. You’ll need to take things out of your normal comfort zone, and do something new. You could try learning something new together, or uncovering a unique experience you can share.
Want to know what’s needed to give your relationship that chemical boost? Three elements are needed, adventure, surprise and anticipation. How hard is it going to be to find something that fulfills all three? It’s really not as hard as you think. Take your wife or girlfriend on a bit of an adventure. Take her off somewhere exciting for the day. Make her up a gift certificate, leaving some of the details secret. You could give her a few hints, such as what to wear and take with her, but the element of anticipation must be adhered to. It could be a day of pampering with a romantic spa day for two. Why not try your hand at rock climbing or scuba diving? Only your imagination will limit your choices, but don’t make plans to do something you’re pretty sure she’s not going to like doing. Watching a top football team participate in an important final, or a day sat by the riverside fishing, might not be quite what she’d imagine doing on such a significant day.

Understand What Your Partner Holds Dear

Special Valentine gifts for her don’t come in the form of a box of fancy chocolates and bouquet of red roses. It doesn’t have to cost a lot but you need to buy something that will appeal to her values. Take a look at all the things that are happening to her at this particular moment in time, and play to what she wants, needs and desires most. Is she particularly stressed at the moment? Would she really appreciate a relaxing massage? Is her life full of child rearing responsibilities? Perhaps she’d really love a day off from it all.

So whether you’re flushed with the excitement of a new relationship, or soon to reach 50 years of marriage, don’t let Valentine’s Day pass without some sort of celebration, and do everything you can to make the day unique. You’ll enjoy it just as much as she does.